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Power of Listening | Atlanta Family Law

Scott Shaw | 575 Views | 10/22/2015

Achieving Results Through Communication

In this video I’m going to share some wisdom on how to communicate with your spouse or the other parent to achieve the best results in your case. The advice in this video can be critical to your case. I cannot over emphasize this from many years of experience. What we do is serious business, and I would not be doing this video if it was not of critical importance to your case.

The Power of Listening

Let me open by saying that there is real power in listening. I’m not going to understate this, power in listening. Email is usually the best way to communicate. It maintains a paper trail and gets the job done. Practice listening, practice being concise and business-like in your communications. Let the other party go on, make threats, make judgments, make a fool of him or herself. You be the reasonable one and don’t say anything that can and will be used against you.

Let the other party do that. Listen. Let them go on. There is power in listening. If frequent conversations take place on the phone, expect that any and all of your phone calls will be recorded. It is legal to record phone calls in the state of Georgia. You conversations should be the same. Not emotional. They should be on point, business like. It is just business and stick simply to the practical necessity of the conversation. You will not be able to convince the other party to your way of thinking. You will not intimidate them. Your moral judgments of them will not change them, and your criticism of them will not satisfy you a resolved issue.

Peacefully Mediating Issues

As unseemly as it may be, it is often advisable to record your conversations as well. In fact, this sometimes a utter necessity. Long and short, do more listening. Specify your position concisely, clearly, calmly. Let the other side do the arguing, ranting, yelling. If you cannot get the other side to agree with you with this simple, not emotional, straightforward communication sticking to just what is practically necessary to speak about, then simply state, I am disappointed that we cannot reach agreement on this issue or I understand you do not agree with me. Thank you for speaking with me. Say goodbye cordially and contact your attorney.

By: Scott Shaw

Power of Listening | Atlanta Family Law

Achieving Results Through Communication

In this video I’m going to share some wisdom on how to communicate with your spouse or the other parent to achieve the best results in your case. The advice in this video can be critical to your case. I cannot over emphasize this from many years of experience. What we do is serious business, and I would not be doing this video if it was not of critical importance to your case.

The Power of Listening

Let me open by saying that there is real power in listening. I’m not going to understate this, power in listening. Email is usually the best way to communicate. It maintains a paper trail and gets the job done. Practice listening, practice being concise and business-like in your communications. Let the other party go on, make threats, make judgments, make a fool of him or herself. You be the reasonable one and don’t say anything that can and will be used against you.

Let the other party do that. Listen. Let them go on. There is power in listening. If frequent conversations take place on the phone, expect that any and all of your phone calls will be recorded. It is legal to record phone calls in the state of Georgia. You conversations should be the same. Not emotional. They should be on point, business like. It is just business and stick simply to the practical necessity of the conversation. You will not be able to convince the other party to your way of thinking. You will not intimidate them. Your moral judgments of them will not change them, and your criticism of them will not satisfy you a resolved issue.

Peacefully Mediating Issues

As unseemly as it may be, it is often advisable to record your conversations as well. In fact, this sometimes a utter necessity. Long and short, do more listening. Specify your position concisely, clearly, calmly. Let the other side do the arguing, ranting, yelling. If you cannot get the other side to agree with you with this simple, not emotional, straightforward communication sticking to just what is practically necessary to speak about, then simply state, I am disappointed that we cannot reach agreement on this issue or I understand you do not agree with me. Thank you for speaking with me. Say goodbye cordially and contact your attorney.

By: Scott Shaw